Tea And Consent (video)

In this video, part of the #ConsentIsEverything campaign, Blue Seat Studio and blogger RockstarDinosaurPiratePrincess (Emmeline May) explains what is consent through different situations with a tea analogy.

Emmeline May explained on her blog the use of this particular metaphor, which can seem absurd : “[…]of course you wouldn’t force feed someone tea because they said yes to a cup last week. Of COURSE you wouldn’t pour tea down the throat of an unconcious person because they said yes to tea 5 minutes ago when they were conscious. But if you can understand how completely ludicrous it is to force people to have tea when they don’t want tea, and you are able to understand when people don’t want tea, then how hard is it to understand when it comes to sex?”

I Never Ask For It Campaign

http://ineveraskforit-testimonials.tumblr.com/

I Never Ask For It is a campaign initiated by Blank Noise, a collective fighting against street harassment initiated by Jasmeen Patheja in August 2003. They describe themselves as “a volunteer/ Action Hero led community arts collective committed to tackling gender based violence and building safe spaces”.

This campaign builds testimonials of sexual violences with clothing : victims send a picture of the garment they were wearing when they felt sexually assaulted. For Blank Noise “each garment is a witness, a testimonial, and a rejection of blame. Each garment builds resonance in saying, ‘I Never Ask For It.’”.

“I Didn’t Ask For This: A Lifetime of Dick Pics” Art Show

http://www.konbini.com/fr/inspiration-2/harcelement-artiste-photos-bites/

The artist Whitney Bell reports sexual harassment by exhibiting the unsolicited “dick pics” she’s received. The benefits of her exhibition has been given to the Centre for Reproductive Rights.

An article in english about the exhibition available here : http://www.vice.com/read/this-woman-turned-her-collection-of-unsolicited-dick-pics-into-an-art-show

Reading : results on sexual harassment training

http://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2016/may/02/sexual-harassment-training-failing-women, “Sexual harassment training may have reverse effect, research suggests”, Sam Levin, 2016.

In order to prevent sexual harassment cases in the workplace, sexual harassment training have been set up in some companies (it is even required by law in California for companies with more than 50 employees). But as the title of the article suggest, research have shown that it can have reverse effect.

The main explanation could come from the “cartoonish, somewhat unrealistic” examples often shown in those trainings. But more importantly, the consequences are surprising : men who have completed sexual harassment trainings were “’significantly less likely’ to consider coercive behaviors toward a subordinate or student as sexual harassment compared with a control group of men who hadn’t done the training” and also less likely to report sexual harassment. Another unexpected consequence is that “after men learned about harassment rules, it triggered implicit gender biases, effectively making it more likely for them to stereotype women”.

Note : a precision is given in the article that studies about the effect of those trainings are very limited, but among those studies, a minimal amount of them have shown positive effects.

Related : http://web.stanford.edu/~liy/sexhar_spq_dec2007.pdf, “Can Legal Interventions Change Beliefs? The Effect of Exposure to Sexual Harassment Policy on Men’s Gender Beliefs”, Justine E. Tinkler, Yan E. Li, Stefanie Mollborn, 2007

Reading : “Men sexually harass women because they are not sexist” by Satoshi Kanazawa

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-scientific-fundamentalist/200904/men-sexually-harass-women-because-they-are-not-sexist-i

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-scientific-fundamentalist/200904/men-sexually-harass-women-because-they-are-not-sexist-ii

“Men sexually harass women because they are not sexist”, part 1 and 2, Satoshi Kanazawa, 2009.

Two parts article by Psychology Today, relating how sexual harassment against women can be seen as a simple difference of behavior and not a matter of power position. The first part describes how men and women have different sexual behaviors and are more likely to have ‘casual sex’ than women and how this could explain that, because men have different needs, they sexually harass women. According to the author, another explanation could be that “as Linda Mealy […] puts it:  “That females are selected to be coy will mean that sometimes saying ‘no’ really does mean ‘try a little harder.’”  Of course, women sometimes do mean no when they say no, but this isn’t always the case.”

The second part of the article explain that men have had behavior which can be qualified as sexual harassment between each other for a long time and the only change is in the fact that women have entered labor force and therefore, are now experiencing those kind of behaviors.

Note : Satoshi Kanazawa, author of those articles, was dissmissed from Psychology Today after publishing an article called “Why Are Black Women Less Physically Attractive Than Other Women?” in 2011, qualified as racist and sexist and have published many other controversial articles such as, for example : “Are All Women Essentially Prostitutes?”.

References :

http://jezebel.com/5791361/psychology-today-hates-feminism, “Psychology Today Hates Feminism”, Tracie Egan Morrissey, 2011.

Defining sexual harassment

According to the EEOC (Equal Employment Opportunity Comission), sexual harassment is defined as “unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature”[1]. As it is precised by the EEOC, ‘unwelcome’ does not mean ‘involuntary’, and whether a sexual conduct is considered as offensive or not is up to the person receiving them.

Although sexual harassment is most common in the workplace, it can also occur in different environments such as school or even family. Another form of sexual harassment, slightly different, is known as street harassment (or stranger harassment). This particular form of harassment happens in public places such as streets, public transports, bars, etc. and is committed by strangers.

Although women are the most common reported victims, men also experience sexual harassment (mostly in the work place). In fact, as Cheryl Benard and Edit Schlaffer mention it in their paper “The Man in the Street” : why he harasses ?, “Like other forms of sexual violences, [sexual] harassment has little to do with the individual woman and nothing to do with sex; the issue is power”[2]. This means that, whether it occurs in the workplace or in the street, sexual harassment is a way for the harasser to prove that he/she is a member of the “ruling group” and is therefore a consequence of every kind of discrimination : sexism, racism, homophobia, etc.

References :

[1] http://www.un.org/womenwatch/osagi/pdf/whatissh.pdf “What is sexual harassment ?”, UN Women Watch, (no date found).

[2] http://www.unc.edu/~kleinman/handouts/The%20Man%20in%20the%20Street-Why%20He%20Harasses.pdf “The Man in the Street : why he harasses ?”, Cheryl Benard and Edit Schlaffer, 1984.